The only place where this Idiosyncratic Idealist Healer lash out her river of thoughts.
"Extraverts, particularly those whose dominant function is thinking, are completely bemused by the introverted feeling type. The former find the latter at once both peculiar and fascinating. The magnetic attraction is due to the apparent [emptiness] from the point of view of the Extravert that cries out to be filled"
Warning : Fi-self centric.
Hmm, it’s been quite long since I learned about MBTI. At first it was for comic assignment but then I decided to take a dip into it—-and I dive in as deep as Atlantic ocean. Still, it was for a purpose : to get the frameworks of my friends’ behavior. After learning MBTI, I become more adaptable to them. Like, why my ENTP friend seems love to debate others and barely give any solution. Why my INTJ friend is confused when I give her some random interconnection ideas that seems to have no purpose, why my ISTJ dad could easily remember a map and space (“Are you sure you’re buying that sofa? it wouldn’t fit our living room space. Need 5 cm less than that”).
Still, the natural partner theory is a framework I still doubt about. As in, INFP is best matched with ENFJ and ENTJ. I have an ENFJ best friends, one of them is a guy. We somehow really connect to each other, have same hobby and complement in some areas that we often hang out together. With the guy ENFJ, people suggested us to date. However, I feel like having a brother instead of a partner. Perhaps, like, ‘personal teacher’? and when I asked him, he also said that I am like a little sister to him. He himself likes a woman who is really tough, confident, cunning, and problem solver which is really not me. Then I think, with ENFJ I connect really well in emotion, and perspective about the world, especially in moral and values. ENFJ is also warm, tender, and diplomatic in delivering their criticism, as well never hesitate to show that they care. At one occasion this ENFJ friend made a phone call during my sickness only to assure me I can ask him for help if I couldn’t walk. Made me think like… a prince type? most of my friends call ENFJ males as prince, as in prince in shoujo manga. And around my University, the ENFJ guys are really prince-alike, in mannerism. Their charisma is superb. BUT despite of these delicious potential, I think I “respect” them and seemingly not the type I’d date, Idk why. Although I seems to have a soft pillow I could land on if I date one. And strangely, the ENFJs around me also think of the same. Though, I do have talked with an INFP with ENFJ couple around the internet. She said that my statement about landing in a soft pillow is true, “ENFJ is definitely best fit with INFP. They’re completing each other’s piece of puzzle” she said. I asked their enneagram, both are type 9w.
Next, ENTJ. I have a REALLY REALLY mixed feeling about this one. First, when I just learned about this type the only close ENTJ type to me was my teacher. He’s an evil for me. I mean, he is super scary I can’t even imagine how could I relate to him. He is very intellectual, well-known and respected curator. His strong ego and confidence is very admirable that I realized this kind of “polar” might be what makes INFP is suited to this type. I think of them as superiors—devil, even. Few months later, I have an art exhibition project and I finally get to know another ENTJ, who is one of my best friends now. He led the project and I worked under him. He is a bit different from the stereotype because he has an heavy dork side (Se driven) and despite being sharp, he could deliver diplomatic speeches, so that I don’t really feel intimidated when we have meetings. Then I get the chance to talk with an INFP, who has ENTJ boyfriend. She showed me his blog and I feel amazed that what he writes is.. INFP-ish things, but in more structured manner. I start to not see them as scary. Then, I found my cousins are also this type and I am close to them. I think the polar with ENTJ works better, STILL. A note I just realized earlier after some observations… despite I could talk, joke to them and admire them, I haven’t feel really comfortable for their Te communication. Idk, it still exhausting at times and I still wonder how the INFPs deal with it if they are in a relationship with one. I did say I’d like to be with one because I enjoy being with them at some level.
Perhaps I don’t posses enough Te level that I get exhausted? (My Ti is high, It seems I depend on internal logic to be rational). However, with INTJ best friends I seem to be really fine, and even comfortable. They could be an heavy Te users as well, which is strange. Perhaps because Ni and Fi? or because they’re type 5w and 4w? Haven’t get to know to 5w ENTJ (and I doubt there is 4) so my conclusion for now is :
Shouldn’t natural partner decided on enneagram instead?
Then again, after I read all this I start laughing and think : Gosh this world of personality ain’t based on tangible and definite system. Chemistry could happen to unexpected ones.
But you know, quoting my ENTJ friend : “Yes, love can grow but there is a requirement for that”.
and rather than writing long list it’s better to come up with listed stereotypes. Anyone can answer me?
gurl is your mbti personality type INFP?
because u FiNe